We Are On Our Way

June 25, 2004

We leave Alexandria on July 11th, and plan to take between 10 and 14 days to drive across country. With two young children, two cats, all of our camping gear, and our telescope (just imagine what we'll see when we're camping at Yellowstone!) our car will be packed tight. I expect it will be a very long and tiring trip, but we've planned many fun and interesting stops along the way to see friends and visit beautiful places. And I am so looking forward to arriving at our destination!

The day before I leave, I will officiate at the marriage of two lovely young women. On this joyous occasion we'll primarily be celebrating their love. But we will also rejoice that they can stand up in public and be openly supported by their friends and families. We will rejoice that everyone from the caterer to the florist to, of course, their minister, didn't bat an eye over the fact that this is the wedding of two women rather than a woman and a man.

On our trip across the country, Graham and the children and I will drive through 11 states. In 10 of them, the federal Defense of Marriage Act has been adopted as law. In every single one, anti-equality legislation or amendments to the constitution is on the political agenda in some way.

I have many reactions when I think about the struggle for marriage equality and particularly about the resistance to gay marriage. I feel sadness, anger, frustration, and impatience, but two different feelings rise to the surface right now.

The first is compassion. Accepting marriage equality for many people means stretching one's mind, changing one's perceptions, and letting go of privileged status. I am all too aware at the moment that change is hard, and carries with it fear and anxiety, even when it is good and right change.

The second is hope. Just as I am sure that we will arrive safely after our trip across the country, I am sure that in my lifetime, there will be full marriage equality for all people. Marriage is ultimately about love, and love is the surest way to ease fear. Though the ceremony I will perform on July 10th is a purely religious one, it is a joyous stop on the journey. I look forward to the day when full civil and legal rights follow.

Where ever your life takes you this summer-- around the world or around the corner-- I wish you safe traveling and happy homecoming. Change is hard, and the journey can be tiring, but rest assured...we are on our way.

Reverend Liz Stevens

We Have a New Minister!

Rev. Margaret and Rev. Stevens respond

up-to-the-minute news from the
Ministerial Search Committee 

On March 29, the Search Committee selected The Rev. Elizabeth “Liz” Stevens as our final candidate to present to the congregation as our new minister. Rev. Stevens brought her family to her candidating week from Friday, April 16th through Sunday, April 25th. Her family consists of husband, Graham Stevens and sons Sam and Daniel. 

On Sunday, April 25, following the second service, KUUF conducted a special congregational meeting during which the congregation voted to call Rev. Elizabeth H. Stevens as our minister.  The vote was unanimous.  Rev. Stevens had said during her sermon that day, “If you call me, I will come!”  The Search Committee members were deeply satisfied and grateful to Rev. Stevens and the congregation.

As arranged during the negotiation process for the Letter of Agreement, Rev. Stevens will begin her service as KUUF’s minister on August 1, 2004, assuming pulpit duties on August 15th.

Between now and then, the congregation, with the support of the Search Committee, will support and assist Rev. Stevens, and her husband, Graham Stevens, and sons, Sam and Daniel, in their transition from Alexandria, Virginia to Kitsap County.  We will reach out our hands and hearts to help them settle in their new home.

According to the KUUF By Laws, the Search Committee will continue to serve as Rev. Stevens and her family’s “settlement agent” for a period of four to five months.

The Search Committee is grateful to the congregation for its support of the search process, but especially to Marilyn Drengson, Jackie Westwood and Dick Norton for their assistance preparing the Congregational Packet, to Alex Miller, Arlis Stewart and RuthAnn McCann for handling the congregational mailings prior to Candidating Week, to Sherry Attaway for helping in a myriad of ways whenever we asked for nine months, and especially to Rev. Margaret Keip for her unfailing encouragement, wise advice and belief in our eventual success.  We also benefited from the excellent support of the UUA Settlement Office, Rev. Nan Geer, Theo Small, Paula Cole-Jones, and our beloved PNWD Ministerial Settlement Representative, Milly Mularky.  Without these wonderful people supporting us as we “searched,” we could not have completed the process.

We owe two most important thank you’s to:

Rev. Stevens thank you for “clicking” on KUUF as you searched on the UUA website for the right church for you.  We are so pleased that we have found you and that you have found us.  May you be our minister for many, many years.

Our last thanks goes to "the spirit" of love, grace and hope. The spirit carried us, individually and as group, through the rough spots and blessed us with understanding, compassion, and gratitude for being able to serve with each other and for the congregation.  Thank you so much.

THE SEARCH COMMITTEE

Leif Bentsen Dianne Boatwright-Frost 
Marlene DiMauro  Linda Gabriel
Ginger Younie Beth Wilson
from an elated Rev. Margaret:  An empowered and empowering call to your next settled minister is what an interim minister yearns and works for. I’m thrilled for you all, and for Liz Stevens and her family, as well , and tickled that she had energy to spare from Candidating Week to accept my invitation to write to you . . . in immediate response.  She says:


     During the conference call where I negotiated my Letter of Agreement, I was asked when I would like to start.  I answered, “Hey, I’d come next week if you wanted me to!”  
     And in fact, I am so excited to begin ministry for and with you all, I’m not sure how I’ll stand waiting until August.  
     However, the reality is that I have work to do between now and then, and so do you.  I need to get ready to be your minister.  I need to plan a move, pack my belongings, drive across the country.  I need to find a place to live.  You need to finish up the church year and then to say goodbye to Margaret. 
     Not only that, but while we are getting ready, life goes on, and we will be working and playing and learning and growing.  I know how important it is to live in the present, and not get so caught up in dreams and imaginings that I lose touch with what is.  
     I have sensed this week that you are excited, too, about possibilities and programs as well as your new minister.  The search process includes some deep questioning, which shakes us up and gets us ready to move in new directions.

Rev. Elizabeth H. Stevens

     Please don’t feel like you need to wait for me!  If you feel a surge of energy and enthusiasm, you can run with it now.  Don’t let it start to fizzle out.
     Three months isn’t that long in the grand scheme of things, but it’s long enough that I will be slightly different, each of you will be slightly different, and who we are together will be slightly different.  Waiting is part of the process.  Enjoy it! 

— Rev. Elizabeth H. Stevens

 

 

 

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